How do you respond to expectations?
By asking the question: How do I respond to expectations?, we can gain insight and increased self knowledge.
Gretchen Rubin's book-the four tendencies looks at the 4 main ways people tend to respond:
1. Upholders- Respond to both internal and external expectations. This means that they will feel obliged to get the job done, but also to put down any extra work in order to maintain personal goals such as fitness, family time, health and down time.
2. Questioners- these people like to question direction or expectations in detail, but often do not like to be questioned themselves. Expectations are there to be examined in detail and questioners only more forward if they feel they fully understand the expectation.
3. Obligers- feel very little self-obligation, but instead feel the push from others very keenly. They are great coaching clients as they can make themselves accountable to the coach in order to achieve objectives.
4. Rebels- hate feeling like they have to do anything. They resist expectations, but love challenges. If you tell them something is impossible, that is the main thing they will focus on trying to do.
So which do you tent toward the most? How do you respond to expectations?
If you would like to find out more about team training in personality types and working well together, contact us at office@multiplygroup.co.uk or leave us a message here.
Image is from Gretchen Rubin's book- Four Tendencies.
Physics Department
The Physics department at City Hospital in Birmingham does a wonderful job in commissioning and using diagnostic equipment for patients.
I (Vicki) was very honoured to be included in this photo with many of the marvellous minds from the department.
Thank you to all of you for the advances you have brought in diagnostics and patients treatment. It is people like you who made the world a better place.
Atomic Habits
Resolutions- So how many of us have made resolutions, or are thinking of changing your lifestyle after all the celebrations of Christmas?
New Year can often be a good time to review health, relationships and objectives at work.
The problem is that we are not always very good at making those changes we identify and want in our lives.
Why?
In the book 'Atomic Habits', James Clear explains that habits are formed from the following 4 step cycle:
Cue, Craving, Response, Reward
The cue triggers a craving, which motivates a response, which provides a reward, which satisfies the craving and then becomes associated with the cue.
This cycle is known as the habit loop.
If we want to form new habits, we should make them obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying, in order to overcome that habit loop.
When working with clients, we encourage them to think of one very small, observable behaviour that could be done at the cue or craving point. As Clear says, this behaviour should be obvious & easy and lead to attractive new habits that bring satisfaction.
We can also use a habit tracker as a fun way to measure progress.
Time Off
Half of all UK employees do not take their full allowance of annual leave each year.
Yet, there is so much evidence that a workaholic cultures do not increase productivity in business, but instead brings burnout, more absence and mental health problems.
Many of my clients are high achievers, going through cycles of achieving so much more in a day than many would in a month, yet have either experienced burnout, or are working hard to avoid it.
This is why many clients have one of their 6 month goals as ‘Not burning out while achieving my other goals.”
The benefits of taking time off are many:
Better ability to deal with conflict
More creativity and insight
Mental, physical and emotional rest
Time with family or friends (investing in these relationships)
We make it a priority to take time away from our jobs and our emails, even when life is busy.
Why not book in some regular time off, before you get to that burned out stage, and maybe just read a book in front of a fire, or go for a long walk with a friend or family?
If you would like to find out more about working more effectively, rather than working harder, or avoiding burnout, email office@multiplycoaching.com